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I recently found out about a TV show on MTV that tells stories of people that, at a certain point of their relationship, have to be divided because one of them has to leave. So they spend the last weeks together and than the one that has to leave for some months goes away in a black car. At that point, we know if they kept the relationship alive, despite the distance, or if they decided to give up. I'm sorry if you don't understand what show this is, it's just that I watch it on TV here in Italy and we have the bad habit to change every movie/show's title, translating it as awkwardly as possible; so I don't know what the real name of the show is.
This program, in some way, reminded me that I wrote about the fact that I had a distance relationship but that I've never really wrote about it in a proper way. I'm not going to talk about my private life, I'm just going to tell you how did it feel for me to be in this kind of relation and, maybe, I will help some of you, who knows?
Basically, first thing to say is that this relationship was the most important and the longest one I've ever had in my life. I didn't have many relationship, to be honest, but this one could have been the best over thousand relationships. This guy and I were together for two years and our story ended on September 2013.
We met thanks to school ! On the 2nd year of high school (2011) my class had this exchange with a dutch school. Yes, we're the same age but he's Dutch and I'm Italian and the only way we had to communicate was talking in English. I have to admit that right now I feel pretty confident writing in a language that is not my official one, but at the time...I couldn't tell the difference between ''why'' and ''because'' ! Ok no, this is too much...I couldn't understand everything and when it came to talking I was always really nervous because my vocabulary was really poor. Despite this massive barrier we managed to start talking, getting to know each other and after the exchange I decided to go back in The Netherlands with other three friends of mine during summer holiday. We had ten lovely days there, and this guy and I decided that we wanted to try to have a proper relationship, although 1169.36 kms that were going to divide us for the biggest part of the time.
We kept having our relationship only seeing each other during Christmas, Easter and summer holidays. Even if it was for four days, those four days were going to make the difference, after 4 months away from each other.
Although it is now over, I need to admit that this was one of the most important experience of my life. I made huge efforts to keep this relationship working, I trusted him, although I couldn't always check if he was loyal etc. ,and I keep believing that my trust was properly given. We both grow with each other's realities that were different. In his country they always use bikes, they eat lots of foreign dishes, their cities are clean and the houses are small but tall. When he came in my city he was surprised that I didn't need car or bikes to meet my friends, but that I just needed a couple of minute walking to see them in the square, he was happy he could eat all that pasta and he liked the fact that my house was not that tall but pretty large.
I'm still in love with The Netherlands and I'm seriously thinking about planning my future there, as an Italian teacher (if I'll ever be able to find that job in that country).
What I'm trying to say in this blog post is that nothing should scares you, every barrier can be destroyed if you strongly believe in what you're doing. Today I read this on twitter:
''If something is meant to be, than it will find his way''
In my situation, it was meant to be although age, distance, language and other obstacles.
And I'm glad that I, at least, tried to make it work in a beautiful way until when it was possible.
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